The Amish stay close to home for the most part. They are born into a community and live their lives surrounded by family and friends. A cross-country move is not something they plan for or probably would experience. I’ve moved eight times in my life, often changing time zones to do it. I am about to move again. We are going from California to New York.
This is a puzzle that requires so many pieces. Boxes, packing materials, closing accounts, opening new accounts, sorting, organizing, donating, and sending notices to all kinds of people. My to-do list is stretching for days. But there is one thing I am making time for in this busy transition: I am making room for friends. Time to grab a coffee or go for a hike. Sure technology will keep us connected on Facebook and Skype when I am 3,000 miles away. But there is nothing like the touch of a friend’s hand or being able to look across the table and chat with no technical difficulties.
I have always been pretty good at making time to hang with my friends, but this move has made me realize I’d fallen into some lazy habits. I haven’t taken the time to see some very dear friends or even chat with my neighbors. I got very busy with life in general. It was easier to just watch posts go by on Facebook or dash off a text than it was to get in touch in person. So now I am being very specific. I am carving out time for those I care about.
It does not have to take a cross country move for you to try the same thing. Make a date to play with a friend this week. Call up someone local you haven’t seen in a while. Plan a walk with someone who is just across town and you’d love to visit. We often remember to keep in touch with those far away or on Facebook, but maybe we forget the friends who are right around the corner. Take it from me, someone who has to give up her local ties very soon, now is the time to keep your friendships fresh.