Made new friends but keep the old
One is silver and the other gold
Do you remember this tune? I used to sing it at Girls Scout camp. It has been years since I thought of it. But I was reminded of the words this week. One of the ladies from my knit circle is moving to the east coast. There were hugs all round on her last Saturday with us. We all promised to keep in touch. Technology allows us the luxury of skyping her into our circle again soon. But there will be no one sitting next to her when we do that. It will take her time to find new friends 3,000 miles away.
When we are little, it seemed easier to strike up a friendship. We join the game of tag. We swing on the bars together. We build in the sand box. Then we go to school and see the same kids over and over in class and at recess. Friendships blossom. Making friends seems almost built into childhood. How do grown-ups find those same easy ways of connection when they relocate to a new community?
Finding a new church. Taking a class at the community center. Visiting local hobby or coffee shops. All can be ways of finding new friends. But breaking into an established circle of people can be difficult as an adult. It’s hard to put yourself out there and look for new places to belong. And one reason it’s tough is time. Those we are seeking to join must have the time for new friends. As we get older our lives seem to fill up with people and obligations. We have work, family, and friends. There seems little room to add anything more.
So my prayer for my knit buddy as she moves to her new community is for a soft landing. I pray she finds new friends to enrich her life. I pray they will know she has friendship to offer. Even as I am praying for her I am thinking of my own community. I could look out for new friends I might add to my circles. Is there someone who looks a little lonely and might need a smile? Some one new I’d like to get to know better?
It takes time of cultivate a new friend and in our busy lives sometimes we pass over the opportunities to do so. But what are we missing? Who are we missing? This is my gentle reminder: Remember when you were the new kid. Keep an eye out, there may be a new friend to find.
Make new friends but keep the old
One is silver and the other gold.