When I was a child I remember my mom telling me a story of her dad returning from a trip into town to buy groceries and other supplies. He bought each of the kids candy bars; there were nine of them. This was a personal touch that made each child feel loved and thought of. As a large Amish family, buying anything extra, like candy bars, was a big deal . . . but still it was a simple way to show love.
As a mother of two young daughters I am desperate for them to understand what love their daddy and I have for them—and ultimately the love of their Father in Heaven. We decided to have more intentional one-on-one time with each of them, starting with our five-year-old, and do something with just her on the 25th of each month this year. We chose the 25th because her birthday is the 25th of April.
Felicity is a dynamic little girl. She has more imagination in her little pinky than I could ever hope for. She is observant, tender-hearted, and silly. She loves books, horses, princesses, and dinosaurs. She is an outstanding big sister to Mercy. She loves to be wherever her daddy and I are.
In January, Mercy (two years old) was already in bed and Felicity was shocked when our babysitter arrived. I told her it was date night with Felicity. I thought her smile was going to go beyond the borders of her sweet face! She said in the vehicle on our way to get hot chocolate that her mouth just can’t stop smiling. She was just so happy.
We took her to Books-a-million for hot chocolate (a double espresso for me), and we read books! She picked out four Dr. Suess books, and her favorite was one about lizards. Yes, she loves anything that resembles dinosaurs! Then, because there was a big sale (three books for the price of two), she picked out a few I Can Read books: Pinkalicious, Fancy Nancy, and a Mercer Mayer book.
As we got home we tucked her into bed, and I told her the 25th of each month we’d do something special with her. Sometimes just one parent and that it would sometimes be going out or staying in.
“Yes!” I just wanted to shout it!!!
We should be celebrating the joy of our children every chance we get! It doesn’t have to take money or even a lot of time, just a little planning. I’m already excited for when Mercy gets a little older and we can celebrate her on the 5th of each month.
Here are some simple ways you can show your child how much you love them on a daughter/son date.
Hot Chocolate with lots of whipped cream (in or out)
Mini-pedi & mini-mani (obviously for girls, in or out)
Letting him or her stay up a bit past bedtime to watch a movie of his or her choice
Take a walk with just him or her to talk about what he or she wants to talk about
Go to the park and play
Let him or her plan a special meal for dinner on the special day
Go out for ice cream (or stay in)
Watch YouTube videos (prescreened of course) on a topic he or she loves, just with the special child
Bake something together
Do a special craft
Chinese Buffet (this is a special thing for just Felicity & daddy)
God ice skating (we have one in our mall!)
Go on a bike ride together
Sit down and play a video or computer game with him or her
A fancy, dress-up dinner
Chore coupon (a day free of chores!)
For us, it doesn’t really matter what the activity is; our intention is to have it be a time for just Felicity and no distractions. Every child deserves some one-on-one attention.
I know most of my ideas work better for girls than boys, so I’d love to hear in the comments section more ideas for the wonderful sons out there. I’d love to hear any ideas!
This is a simple and easy way to show your love with your children!